It’s Always a Personal Journey:
Cutting karmic relationships from our lives is never easy, but it’s most certainly necessary for growth to take place. Otherwise stressful patterns will constantly repeat, as you go about your daily routine, and believe you me they will find ways to make you as uneasy as possible. At least this how it has played out in my own life.
That’s right, this is one of those posts where I specifically talk about my personal experiences. While I plan on making this as humorous as possible, I want you to know that while I can laugh at these experiences now, they were often beyond stressful to work through. In all honesty, some of the experiences I will discuss today are still “Raw”, but writing is an outlet that I use to communicate, and laugh about my own stupidity at times.
So lets get into it shall we, but before we do, click here for a list of the indicators you’re in a Karmic Relationship. I should note, it’s only a basic list. Karmic relationships vary in intensity, and the specifics of the “Karmic Connection” are often diverse.
Ending The “Lisa & Tyler” RELATIONSHIPs:
If you’re familiar with the “V” reboot that took place in 2009, then you’ll know what the “Lisa & Tyler” relationship was. You may even be shaking your head, saying, “Poor Tyler……”. If you’re not familiar with the series, then I recommended you check it out. Although the reboot only lasted two seasons, it contained a lot of “Easter Eggs”… One being, physical beauty doesn’t represent the soul. This is especially true for “Anna”, who plays Lisa’s mother in the series. She is a looker, but it only runs skin deep, she’s also an evil ass biatch. Lisa ultimately is the victim of group agenda, but she still has some predator in her.
Anyways why did I reference this? I’ll tell you why, because the “Lisa & Tyler” relationship describes the types of women I’ve found interesting over and over again, and yes it has always bitten me in the ass. Luckily I’ve never been in an intimate relationship with any of these women, but trust me their sting still burns. This is the part, where I start talking specifics, so naturally I will be changing names too keep the identities secrete.
Be sure to look for those “Lisa/ Tyler” themed characteristics, some may include the following…. The Mysterious Girl, The Bad Girl, Extreme Physical Beauty, Alternate Agendas, and Sociopathic behavior. Regardless of characteristics, they all had the ability to leave you feeling the below…….. Again more “V” Themed media.
Cutting Karmic RELATIONSHIPS, Issie The DOMINATE:
I’m going to work in reverse order, that way I’ll be sure to get though my most recent history :). Issie is a young beautiful women, who in addition to her beauty is able to hold a conversation related to just about any topic. Her intelligence almost comes off as mysterious and to be fair she does have many good qualities. But she is someone who knows how to manipulate, and due to her own wounds has avoided emotional connection as much a possible. That doesn’t stop her from behaving in a seductive lustful manner, when she “wants some”.
I meet Issie through a friend a few years back, and immediately was drawn to her “vibe”. I found her interesting, and as indicated above she was very beautiful. We didn’t say much to each other on the day we met, but shortly afterward we begun communicating via a social networking application…. No it was not Facebook. Our conversations mostly focused on atypical topics such as, Tarot, Numerology, and other metaphysical things.
It wasn’t long until we were texting with the occasional phone call. We would often text until the early hours of the morning, and I would be beyond tired from lack of sleep. We even would hang out every now and again, but as I indicated above these were not intimate relationships.
You see, in this particular Karmic pattern, I have let women of this type walk all over me, use my emotional support for friendship, but at the same time pretty much treat me like shit.
Issie was very dominate, she would go out and loved to get the attention from guys. Often her cell phone would be constantly a buzz with texts from whoever see interacted with the night before. Issie would then like to keep her “Read Receipts” on, so everyone who sent her a text would know when she read their message. She would then take joy in watching how guys would respond, if she didn’t respond to their texts, after they knew she had seen their message.
Yes, she actually admitted this to me during a conversation with her. Yet she’d be furious if you dared not answer her in complete sentences when she took the time to respond.
Another theme with Issie, was she treated people like they were “the flavor of the week”. If she made plans to do something with you, but at the last second an opportunity arose where she could hang out with someone else who she “liked more”, she would ditch your ass faster than a progressive ditches a Trump hat. This happened a lot when I interacted with her.
In one instance I had planned to go running at a local state park, and she indicated she wanted to go. So being a nice guy I switched my planes around to involve her. I kid you not, like the next day she told me about her plans to hang out with another guy, during the time when I was supposed to be picking her up to go run. When I brought this to her attention, she pretty much laughed in my face. She found is extremely humorous, that I would even call her out on her shit. Of course did I lean my lesson….. Of course not.
This continued to occur. In perhaps the most hilarious instance, she told me she wanted to attend a Medium Message Circle with some of my friends and family. I counted her in, and made sure to keep asking if she was sure she wanted to go. She constantly confirmed she was coming, up to the day before. On the day of the event, she sent us a message saying she couldn’t come, because she had fallen asleep and woke up less than an hour before the event started. Here is the hilarious part, she sent us a text of her laying on a bed, but she didn’t realize we could tell she clearly was in a dude’s bedroom.
I was furious, and I was also an idiot because I made an excuse for her behavior. Another classic one occurred, when she sent me a text while I was taking a final exam. And wanted to hang out, and work on meditation. I told her I could do it once I was done taking my test, and I made plans to pick her up that afternoon. As I was leaving to get her, I sent her a text to let her know I was on my way. She infamously responded, that she had started painting her bedroom and couldn’t hang out. I couldn’t make this shit up. I naturally didn’t believe her, but she sent me a picture of her painting her room….
One thing I learned not to do, was show Issie too many emotions, she would go out of her way to reject them, and then argue the counter. I thought she was going to eat my soul when we got into a debate on the concept of Love vs. Lust.
Despite all of this, and more (don’t have enough time to go through it all) I remained “friends” with her. Although I have not seen her in person in over two years. However, I’ve realized more and more, I want more authentic friendships. I don’t want to be communicating to someone via email or text, especially is you live within 30 minutes of me (which is the case here). I indicated this to her, and even made one last attempt to pursue a true friendship with her. Her response was, her telling me she was going to disregard my attempt. Thus I let her know, I will no longer be maintaining “email communication” after the new year. I totally expect her to disregard that as well. I’m done with disrespecting myself by letting people treat me in such a way.
Within minutes of making the decision, I was greeted be the synchronistic “4:44” message on both of my kitchen clocks.
Cutting Karmic RELATIONSHIPS, Kelly the AIM GIrl:
This next one initially started over 10 years ago, and boy of boy should I have learned. One evening during my senior year of college, I was busy working on finals, and at the same time had been monitoring the AIM chat rooms for sport. I used to enjoy reading what others were talking about in them, although I rarely contributed myself.
Anyways out of the blue, one of the AIM users sent me a message, and we started chatting. I know what some of you are probably thinking, “AIM, come on man, you never know who you’re truly talking too”. I suppose this is true, but it didn’t stop me from having a conversation at the time. Needless to say over a long period we shared more info about each other, including pictures (normal pictures). As a result I was confident that who I was talking to was really a girl from Chicago. It just wasn’t the picture, but how they talked and communicated. I could tell it wasn’t some 50 year old guy living in their mother’s basement.
Kelly was a senior in HS at the time, so I was 4-5 years older than her. Which didn’t bother me, as our conversations were never inappropriate, again these were “friendships”. She asked me a lot of questions about college, and what to expect, as well as what major I was. She had a similar interest, so we hit it off. Over the course of the summer, we talked constantly on AIM, as well as exchanged emails. This continued right up until mid 2016. Yes, we communicated for years.
Like Issie, Kelly loved attention, she once said to me something along the lines of “I like talking to you, because you make me feel better about myself”. She even went as far to she loved me, the summer we first started talking, and I didn’t know how to take that. Although I will admit, I felt like I knew her from another time. Yeah I know, most would find that weird.
What I believe she loved, was the idea of me. She liked being able to talk to someone who was genuinely nice. Naturally I began to become found of her, and really wanted to get to know her more. I suggested we talk on the phone, or perhaps meet. This was of course after years of talking. However, like Issie she didn’t want to, and responded by saying “what would her parents think”. Of course my feelings were hurt, it was obvious that she only was talking to me because it served as an escape of whatever she had going on in her life.
Eventually she even used me to talk about her BF she ended up with (again this was sometime after we first met). I was so nice, I still was willing to talk to her about anything. Eventually her and the BF broke up, and she really started talking to me again via email. But she didn’t want to ever break from the email communication (from what I could tell). I eventually realized I wasn’t being treated nicely and ended the communication.
Cutting Karmic Relationships, Peslie The Queen BEe:
This last relationship I’m going to talk about today, occurred when I was in HS. During my HS days, I used to play a lot of video games, and when I say a lot I mean countless hours. One favorite of mine was the “Command and Conquer” series, which pitted payers against each other as they built up their military bases and then tried to take out other players.
I used to play the game over a dial up connection, with a few others who lived in another state. You gotta love the gaming community, you meet a lot of interesting people. Anyways I met Peslie through a mutual gaming friend, she wasn’t a gamer, but she was friends with one of the people I played online with. Once I had a cable internet connection, I would often talk on to the people I was playing with, or use another device to do so. I even talked on the phone with my gaming buddy, and Peslie via three way chat a few times. My friend had a huge crush on her, and would often talk to me about her. Peslie was a beauty (just like Kelly and Issie), but she was also a tad dominate. I used to joke, that she would “eat your soul” if you pissed her off, and trust me she got pissed at me a number of times.
Peslie and I didn’t communicate directly for some time, but over the course of a number of years we got comfortable with texting and talking on the phone. She had a strong southern accent and loved to say “Yall”. It was a cute accent though, and it always made me laugh. Again Peslie and I were just friends, and she liked to talk to me because I was able to calm her down when she was upset. Eventually my gaming buddy lost interest in her, and that devastated her. She never really gave him the time of day, but once she was off his radar, it hurt her. I used to listen to her cry on the phone at times, and vent about the situation.
It was a very emotionally charged situation when this occurred. Eventually Peslie became interested in other guys and we would only really talk when she needed to vent. I was someone she could talk to who was safe. When she didn’t need that outlet, I hardly heard from her. Eventually she stopped talking to me altogether, and I can only assume she had finally found herself in a enjoyable situation and no longer needed my “friendship”. Of course this made me feel like crap, but eventually It didn’t bother me. Maybe if it had, I wouldn’t of repeated the situation over and over again.
Cutting Karmic RELATIONSHIPS, in conclusion:
As I indicated in the beginning of this post, cutting karmic relationships is always a personal journey. It is never easy, and it has to be done with care. Some of you may be saying to yourselves, “Damn dude, it took you a long time to see the pattern”. To this I would say, it took me a long time to accept that the pattern existed. These are not the only people where this pattern, or a similar one repeated. But they are some of the “Classics”. I was well aware of the pattern by the time I got to Issie, but I kept telling myself “things would be different”. I now know they will never be different until I resolve the Karmic pattern. Part of that involves having more respect for myself, and letting go of the “Lisa & Tyler” types of relationships.
Only then will more authentic relationships take there place, and this is where I want to be heading. On a final note, I want to make it clear that I don’t hold anger towards any of the individual’s I mentioned today. If I hold anything, it is frustration towards myself for not acting sooner. The people I’ve talked about, have allowed me to see the pattern, and have given me the chance to resolve it once and for all. As a result I have no doubt, I will be listening to the below, on my way home.